Free Up Your Energy and Get More Done in 2012

Free up your energy; learn to drop worries.

Would you like more energy to make this new year phenomenal? I’ll now share with you a powerful method that begins with three words: “It’s just stuff.” We’ll use the I.T. process.

I – identify
T – target

1. Identify

You need to identify what is truly vital for your happiness. The technique of “It’s just stuff” is a short cut to the process called “non-attachment.”  For example, I experienced twinges of sadness with the closing of Borders bookstores. Why? I had enjoyed many times exploring and finding new books. A Borders store was a place for me to relax and have fun. Really? Because I read a lot of books (85 books in 2011).

But I have discovered a way to quickly move onto a new feeling and new energy. I tell myself “It’s just stuff.” This phrase (which I call a “Switch Phrase”) switches the direction of my thoughts. By saying “it’s just stuff,” I remind myself that I have other ways to have fun — like calling up a friend and having a conversation. You see, I have just reminded myself that material objects are not the only way to enjoy life.

The idea of “non-attachment” is about being free to think other things and have other feelings. On the other hand, I know people who are truly attached to some things, and it just creates misery. We can be attached to physical things like jewelry or books –  you name it.

We also get attached to ideas. For example, if Sam says, “I can’t be happy if my mother keeps criticizing me” — then Sam is attached to one idea. This is a problem because his mother may never approve of him or his actions.

On the other hand, Approval is an occasional dessert. This idea came to my thoughts as I have noticed that some extended family members tend to be hyper-critical. Over the years, I have taught myself not to “demand” or expect approval from various people. I have identified that someone’s approval is not required for me to have an enjoyable life. I can even say, metaphorically, that someone’s lack of approval is “just stuff” — and I can flow onward with my life.

2. Target

What do you want to target as good experiences in your life? Sure, your targets can be goals. But we’re also looking at experiencing good feelings now. You can target your own good feelings.

Let’s say your target is to have better relationships. You can use two phrases: 1) “it’s just stuff” and 2) “make space for people to feel their feelings.” Above, I’ve talked about the idea of being non-attached. Imagine that you can figure out what “stuff” you can drop (what you can be non-attached to). I have a wide circle of friends. Some friends tend to argue with each other. I’ve learned to drop the “stuff” of trying to broker peace between them.

I’ve also learned to “make space for people to feel their feelings.” For example, I have a friend “George” who really pushes waiters to make significant changes when ordering food at restaurants. What changes? George requires a $1.00 discount when he orders a dish without an ingredient.

I remind myself to “make space for people to feel their feelings.” George feels that he has a right to push for certain changes. Okay.

I also hold to an idea: “People can ask for what they want.”

My point is that I do not expect or demand that George change. I drop “the stuff.”

Also, I do not expect or demand that I’ll always have the patience to be near George’s big “$1.00 negotiation” at the restaurant table. I can choose on a given day to decline going to a restaurant with George.

I make space for other people to have their feelings. And I make space for me to have feelings.

And guess what?

I feel free.

This is the power of non-attachment.

By the way, you and I can choose what to be attached to.

I am attached to the idea of being kind to my friends and family. I am attached to doing my best to demonstrate loving actions toward loved ones.

And, I identify what I can let go of.

In this way, I free up a lot of energy. I can use this energy to be really productive.

I invite you to:

* Identify what is truly vital for your happiness. (Let go of other things.)

* Target the good experiences you want in your life. (Let go of things that do not help you.)

Many blessings to you this New Year,

Tom

***image with this article photographed by Tom Marcoux**

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