February 14th, 2011
“How do I deal with the job interview question: ‘What is one of your weaknesses?’” — asked one of my graduate students.
I replied that one needs to talk about an “okay” weakness.
What is that?
It’s a weakness that you have identified, that you’ve gained coaching on, and that you have a daily method to handle. (And that’s how you talk about the weakness: you gained coaching and you work on it daily. In this way, you demonstrate that you’re coachable and flexible, and you’re a fast learner. Ideal qualities for a new hire.)
The big point is that the weakness is something you can work on and it is not a fixed characteristic.
What’s a fixed characteristic? “Shy.” “Bad with numbers.” “Messy.” “Disorganized.”
When you want to make a leap forward in your career and in your life, use this pattern:
“Before now, I did not [devote time to clear my desk],
and today, I’m going to [put in 15 minutes to clear my desk before I leave for the evening.]
When you let go of the tendency to give yourself disempowering labels (for a supposed characteristic), you’ll find that your personal energy is enhanced.
For example, Alandra has a messy desk. But she is not a messy person. Her computers files are impeccably arranged on her laptop computer and she has style and grace with her appearance. So she benefits from the above pattern: “Before now, I did not _______, and today, I’m going to _____.”
Be careful about the labels you say about yourself; the labels can turn into negative self-fulfilling prophesies. In effect, when you give yourself a label, you are programming your own thinking and behavior — which lead to the results you experience.
For example, I tell myself that I have an excellent memory. Recently, I contacted the author of an audio program Achieving Excellence that I heard more than 20 years ago. He was surprised to hear that I share one of his particular ideas with my current graduate students.
You see, this is another example that I emphasize to myself that I do have an excellent memory.
What do you want to emphasize about yourself? Are you insightful, trustworthy, creative . . .?
Good for you!
And remember that an “okay” weakness to mention in a job interview is something that you have identified,
gained coaching on (or attended a workshop),
and have a daily method to handle.
Use these distinctions and you’ll get more done and feel better doing it.
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