Need some relief? Bring Humor and Laughter into your life

November 29th, 2010

16 Comments

When life feels dark, try humor to bring light and relief.

The pressure was too much. Susan thought she’d break. She tried to talk it out. She told the truth to a friend, “I’m furious. It’s not fair. My roommates just abandoned me and went to a movie and left the mess to me. And the landlord was going to inspect our apartment the next morning.”

But Susan didn’t get any relief until . . . . She laughed. How? She watched a brief TV show that she had pre-recorded.

Susan is onto something here. In fact, I watch something funny and I laugh everyday. One of my favorite shows is “Whose Line Is It, Anyway?” This is a show in which a number of comedians improvise comedic skits.

For many of us, just some brief laughter brings genuine relief. We feel better. The world seems less oppressive. Somehow, an inner lightness arises. The facts of the situation may not change, but somehow, we have awakened our inner resources.

When I teach graduate students how to add humor to their speeches, I share these details:

1. Humor always has a target.
2. You are the safe target for your humor.
3. Humor happens with the last word in the sentence.
4. Tell a story (if expressing a joke doesn’t flow easily for you).
5. Humor involves “pain at a distance.”

Recently, I visited my mother. I remembered “tell a story.” So I started telling a story and I discovered the humor in the story. What a joy to see my mother laughing.  I glanced to my right and saw that my sweetheart chuckled, too.

As a teenager, when I completed an internship, a kind co-worker gave me a gift. She included a note: “Be the rose that perfumes the hand that crushes it.” At the time, I didn’t quite connect with that phrase.

I have an optimistic approach to life. And, I can connect to part of the spirit of the co-worker’s note. Now, I say, “Learn to inspire laughter in others. Their laughter splashes onto you.” No towel needed. :)

Warmly,

Tom

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16 Responses to “Need some relief? Bring Humor and Laughter into your life”

  1. Hilory Says:
    November 29th, 2010 at 10:36 AM

    Hi Tom,

    I so agree that humor has a way of putting most (though perhaps not all) situations in perspective. Life is illusory in many ways-we have to deal with realities, of course, but in most instances we are so focused on the reality of a challenging issue that we fail to step back to see how relatively minor this challenge truly is in the broader perspective of a life. When we hear of true tragedies, suddenly our current issue seems insignificant. So the question is why wait for a tragedy to put life in perspective? Why not use humor to do the same-with the added benefit of releasing endorphines at the same time?

    Life is not easy, but it doesn’t have to be hard. We are responsible for our attitudes towards the circumstances that arise. Facing life with a lighter spirit allows space for light or spirit to enter. Laughter is the bridge.

    Thank you for the ‘light’ but truly profound post!

  2. Cliff Says:
    November 29th, 2010 at 12:42 PM

    Added, I enjoy your site! :)

  3. Tom Marcoux Says:
    November 29th, 2010 at 3:24 PM

    Hilory,
    about “Life is not easy, but it doesn’t have to be hard. We are responsible for our attitudes towards the circumstances that arise. Facing life with a lighter spirit allows space for light or spirit to enter. Laughter is the bridge.”

    Profound.
    Thank you :)

    I have found that sometimes talking doesn’t bring the relief, but laughter can be like a refreshing glass of cool water.

    Hilory,
    I went to your website http://www.diamondmediasolutions.com/
    and I learned: “Diamond Media Solutions has a team of experts who specialize in:
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    Keeping your social media presence updated, lively and pertinent to your audience
    Using Social Media to drive prospects to your videos, blogs, teleseminars, articles and of course, your website.”

    Sounds powerful.

    the best to you,
    Tom

  4. Danek Says:
    November 29th, 2010 at 4:34 PM

    Hi Tom,

    Very true. During dark times, such as the loss of my parents, watching funny TV shows really helped.

  5. Tom Marcoux Says:
    November 29th, 2010 at 5:07 PM

    Danek,
    about “Very true. During dark times, such as the loss of my parents, watching funny TV shows really helped.”

    Yes. Thank you for sharing this important example.

    * * * * *

    Danek,
    I went to your website http://www.getfreepublicitynow.com/
    and saw your posting “Get Free Publicity by Being Newsworthy”

    Very helpful.

    the best to you,
    Tom

  6. Mary White-Levilain Says:
    November 29th, 2010 at 6:09 PM

    This is such beautiful wisdom Tom. It takes a split second to disconnect from the pain, gain new perspective and add to the lightness all around.

    Thank you for sharing,

    Mary Margaret

  7. Tom Marcoux Says:
    November 29th, 2010 at 6:31 PM

    Mary Margaret,
    about “This is such beautiful wisdom Tom. It takes a split second to disconnect from the pain, gain new perspective and add to the lightness all around. Thank you for sharing”

    Thank you for your kind, encouraging words :)

    Mary Margaret,
    I went to your website http://blog.igameattitude.com/
    and I learned:
    “A primary function of coaching is to liberate the individual from any unconscious dependence and to enable him to stand for himself beyond security in an autonomy of feeling, expression, perception and action”
    from one of the postings.

    Powerful.

    the best to you,
    Tom

  8. Tom Marcoux Says:
    December 1st, 2010 at 12:17 AM

    Cliff,
    about “Added, I enjoy your site!”

    Thank you.
    This is great to hear.
    The best to you,
    Tom

  9. Kevin Yang Says:
    December 4th, 2010 at 12:43 AM

    Hi Tom,

    Your blog is always full of wisdom. I definitely agree with you about bringing humor into my life. It has been one of the things that has kept me going. When I look back at things and have a laugh about them, they always ended up becoming insignificant and allow me to continue moving forward again.

    Best regards,

    Kevin

  10. Tom Marcoux Says:
    December 4th, 2010 at 2:08 AM

    Kevin,
    about “Your blog is always full of wisdom. I definitely agree with you about bringing humor into my life. It has been one of the things that has kept me going. When I look back at things and have a laugh about them, they always ended up becoming insignificant and allow me to continue moving forward again.”

    I hear you.
    And I find that having some big laughs (sometimes watching favorite comedians on youtube.com — for example) on a daily basis just brings me into a state of feeling
    refreshed — and stronger to make more positive things happen.

    Thanks for your posting.
    Many happy moments,
    Tom

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    December 8th, 2010 at 11:54 PM

    Dallya,
    about “You have got a very valuable blog, I have already been here reading for around one hour. I am a newbie and your accomplishment is extremely inspirering for me.”

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    Tom

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    Thank you!
    a great day,
    Tom

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