Protect Your Energy – Let Intuition Help You for Success and Fulfillment!

July 26th, 2010

24 Comments

Ever see natural beauty and feel awe and gratitude?

Ever meet someone who is “walking panic”?

It seems that many of us have a friend who just makes life more of a struggle. And they like complaining.

But that’s not you and me (Right? — right!?)

Life has given me a number of opportunities (okay, past problems) so that I had to learn about something I call “healthy humility.”

Healthy humility is a great alternative to “walking panic.”

I’ve learned to take a flexible stance and flow with life instead of allowing reflexive judgments cloud my thinking. How? Let’s say, I find it rude that a relative won’t take my phone calls. I let my thoughts flow by and allow other thoughts to enter like:

* I wonder what I can learn here.
* Maybe this person is just unskillful about handling upset feelings.
* What would I rather think about?

The rigid stance of insisting that other people “should” do something can block the flow of your intuition. How? Because nothing new can get in. And new ideas take form as a gift from your intuition. Take action with your new ideas and you may allow an inflow of financial abundance (Now, wouldn’t that be great?!)

How to Protect Your Energy

First, holding a rigid stance takes a lot of energy. Stop wasting your energy! Second, when you have access to your intuition, things start flowing the way you prefer with ease. That’s right. You can avoid struggle and the associated wasted energy!

With healthy humility, you have access to your intuition which brings amazing opportunities and even joy.

How? Healthy humility gives your flexibility. In essence, you are coachable by life, mentors and even friends. You realize that we human beings have a limited perception in the moment. It’s like a friend warning you about spinach on your teeth. And you say, “Thanks” — and remove the spinach.

Mistake: Consider that humility is to feel less than others.

Instead, we’re looking for you to stand shoulder to shoulder with others — while recognizing that each of us has limited perceptions in the moment.

Solution: To deem healthy humility as a non-demanding, flexible approach to learning and being in the moment.

We get into trouble when we have judgments that people should act in certain ways. Should people say “thank you” and “please”? Imagine that you just step back from a demanding stance and focus on having preferences. We all prefer when people say “thank you” and are courteous. With healthy humility, you just step back and let people be as they are. [It's true that there are times when people must step way from abuse and get professional help when needed.]

Healthy humility is also a gift because it lets you off the hook, appropriately. We don’t control a number of parts of life, including other people’s behavior and feelings. I remind myself with this phrase: “I don’t run that show.”

Healthy humility helps us live in the moment and feel better. How? We learn to add to our stream of thoughts, these phrases:

* I don’t run that show.
* I enter each moment fresh.
* I prefer (not demand) . . .
* I do not know
* I wonder . . .
* I wonder what I’m going to learn here.

Here’s the secret: the above ideas allow you to be flexible and avoid wallowing in upset feelings for most of your day. When you’re flexible and fun to be around, people easily and naturally bring you opportunities.

One of my book editors said, “Wait a minute, are you asking people to pretend there are no problems?” My reply is: “No! I’m suggesting that we become, in essence, strategic about how we use our limited time and energy. For example, a couple can say, ‘We’ll save that for our couple’s therapy session on Wednesday’ — and then they can enjoy better times throughout the rest of the week.”

Try healthy humility.

Warmly,

Tom

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24 Responses to “Protect Your Energy – Let Intuition Help You for Success and Fulfillment!”

  1. Danek S. Kaus Says:
    July 26th, 2010 at 4:30 PM

    Tom,

    Thanks for the insights. Rude people are an issue with me. A few days ago I was doing a return at a drugstore. It became apparent that it was going to take several minutes to deal with.

    There was a man standing beside me so I told the clerk to let him do his transaction. He annoyed me in two ways. He also had a long transaction, which he didn’t reveal, and he didn’t even acknowledge the kindness I had done for him. Totally ignored what I had done. There was no way he could not have known.

    People who just take with no concept of gratitude or even the slightest courtesy, can really get me angry. I considered saying something to him but realized, people like that will never “get it.” It’s not in their world view. So why get into a hassle?

    Now, I just need to incorporate that there will always be people like that into my world view and not get upset about it.

    Keep up the good work.

  2. Tom Marcoux Says:
    July 26th, 2010 at 6:53 PM

    Danek,
    I hear you about the rude man and your comment: “I considered saying something to him but realized, people like that will never “get it.” It’s not in their world view. So why get into a hassle?”

    So true.
    I remind myself with two phrases:
    * I don’t run this show.
    * Is this a teaching moment? (the person didn’t ask for any ideas from me . . .)

    Danek, thanks for your encouraging words: “Keep up the good work.”

    Also, about good work: I appreciate your writing tips at http://YourBookIntoAMovie.com

    Thanks for your comment.

    the best to you,
    Tom

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  5. Daya Says:
    July 29th, 2010 at 6:02 PM

    I’d love to get more specific examples and lines to help me protect my energy output. ‘We’ll save that for our couples session’ is a great idea and line to keep in mind, but that’s only one situation. I think I need a handbook of such lines—-perhaps categorized: work/personal/family, etc. I do feel that my energy leaks out because I respond and get involved in too many conversations/situations/issues just because I don’t really know when and how not to.

  6. Tom Marcoux Says:
    July 30th, 2010 at 12:26 AM

    Daya,
    about “I’d love to get more specific examples and lines to help me protect my energy output. ‘We’ll save that for our couples session’ is a great idea and line to keep in mind, but that’s only one situation. I think I need a handbook of such lines—-perhaps categorized: work/personal/family, etc. I do feel that my energy leaks out because I respond and get involved in too many conversations/situations/issues just because I don’t really know when and how not to.”

    I hear you.
    The important thing about lines to protect your energy is
    that we all need ways to give ourselves “think-space” (a word I coined that means “having time and space to think and feel through a situation before
    we say ‘yes’”).

    We need to assure a person that he/she is important.
    And that we need to get back in touch later.
    One example is:
    “That sounds like an important project. I’m sure that it will be really helpful to _____.
    I’m not sure I can fit in helping you with that now. My plate is full. Let me check my calendar
    and double check with my family. How about I call you about this tomorrow afternoon?”

    Daya, thanks for your comment.
    joyful moments,
    Tom

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    Thank you.
    the best to you,
    Tom

    P.S. my account on Twitter.com is tommarcoux

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  23. Kim Cobos Says:
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    Hi Tom, great article. I am a serious go-getter, everywhere I go people tell me I’m tenacious. My motto is a rolling stone gathers no moss. I find my love, patience and understanding for people is huge. However, there are times I don’t understand a behavior, or outcome, or situation. These are the times I find myself getting tense. “Think-Space” is a great word, when I feel myself getting tense, I “observe” that moment in time, instead of “react”. It took some time to get into that habit and become aware, but now, I’m able to recognize my emotion almost immediately and I go into “observe”, “think-space” mode.

    Thanks again Tom for your wisdom
    Kim Cobos

  24. Tom Marcoux Says:
    August 25th, 2010 at 3:13 PM

    Kim,
    about “Hi Tom, great article. I am a serious go-getter, everywhere I go people tell me I’m tenacious. My motto is a rolling stone gathers no moss. I find my love, patience and understanding for people is huge. However, there are times I don’t understand a behavior, or outcome, or situation. These are the times I find myself getting tense. “Think-Space” is a great word, when I feel myself getting tense, I “observe” that moment in time, instead of “react”. It took some time to get into that habit and become aware, but now, I’m able to recognize my emotion almost immediately and I go into “observe”, “think-space” mode.
    Thanks again Tom for your wisdom”

    Thank you for your insightful comment :)

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    the best to you,
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